Maurice Turmel PhD

Hungry Times

We are beginning to have a profound awareness of the damage done to this planet in the name of progress and greed.  We humans do not need all the toy’s various corporations are bringing to market, but these do keep the world economies going and we are congratulated when making purchases because that demonstrates our support for the system which surrounds us. The liars and cheats at the top of the economic pyramid like it this way.

This whole system based on production and consumption of products we don’t need is about to collapse.  That is the thesis of this article. And this is about to happen right before our eyes.

Country after country is about to go bankrupt. The world’s economic and financial systems are teetering.  The whole arrangement is about to come tumbling down and will make 1929 look like a hiccup on the economic picture of modern times.

The giant corporations and the elites who are their masters are failing at every venue where they operate.  They have colluded with world governments and religions to control this aspect of our lives and they have destabilized the world as a result.  Greed run amuck, pure and simple!

These are sad times for Mother Earth and for our species.  Our human brothers and sisters are suffering at the hands of corporate dictators, one as bad as the next.  They have delivered to us a long line of failures dating back to the beginning of modern times as launched by the industrial revolution. Their most recent colossal abuse has been the murder of the Gulf of Mexico by BP’s spill of millions of barrels of oil, treated with toxic chemicals to keep it at the bottom of the Gulf where it cannot be measured. This “patch” being sanctioned by the government of the United States.

These are the final days of Atlantis all over again with the powers that be trying to control the levers of our financial institutions, the banks and their government counterparts.

There is no semblance of sanity in all the actions being taken at this time.  Right now, it is feeble patchwork for all the holes in the systems that are coming up. Meanwhile the patches fail, the holes get bigger, and before the next one can be plugged there are 3 more forming before our very eyes.  Wiki Leaks, among other sources, has shown us how tenuous our times are.

This is a collapse of major proportions that the world is facing. This is the climax to decades and centuries of untruth.  This will be the world’s most colossal failure with global implications.  No country, no continent, no region of the world will be left unaffected.

This is how Mother Earth turns when its human governing bodies are disconnected from Source, and only informed by their sick little egos, which are frightened of everything and believe safety comes from the business end of some weapon.

We of the Ethereal Realms are also at our wits end in view of this fast approaching calamity.  We have nowhere to turn either, for the moment.  The world’s systems are about to collapse before our eyes as well.  The earth’s and your only hope is to move toward the higher dimensions of consciousness and reconnect with your God nature.

At this point it is impossible to keep the human systems afloat, to keep up the pretence of solid economic times and the rewards of personal achievement as measured by the monetary systems currently in practice.  It’s becoming more of a hard sell every day to the world’s populations whose only appeasement used to be spending at the behest of their corporate and governmental leaders.

They are the liars and cheats that are already being exposed for their wrongdoings, which they did to keep up their illusory reality.  Wiki Leaks turns out to be a Godsend in this measure, because all those dirty little secrets we are too “fragile” to know about are being exposed as we speak.

This picture is depressing, isn’t it?  It is also heart wrenching and demoralizing. In the aftermath of the Ascension that is now upon us, these issues will become moot.

What’s ahead?

After the Earth’s Ascension into the 5^th dimension, along with all her inhabitants who were willing and committed participants, there will be no more banks. There will be no more top down management of our daily affairs.  And there will be no more military exploits which only bring chagrin to everyone.

Modern man has been busy destroying the very nest in which he lives and has abused the Sacred Mother that exists to nurture all life aboard.  Mother Earth is about to turn her back on all these cowards, and we along with them if we don’t re-supply our faith with the truth.  We each have that choice.

Ascension will take care of this.  And those of us who make it through will be surprised at how little effort it took to get there.

But the rest of our brothers and sisters, those nestled into bunker sites that are popping up all over the world, waiting to return to power after 2012 delivers its mighty wallop, will have nowhere to turn except on each other.  And they will do so with a vengeance.  They will curse each other and they will die trying to regain what they believe is their birthright, control of the earth’s population and her resources.  We are witnessing the death throes of this belief system right now.

With each bank failure, with each corporate collapse, with each Western Nation’s bankruptcy, the world’s artificially fuelled marketplace will fold in on itself.

All those corporate bailouts delivered to the architects of the current financial fiasco are for naught; the are only delaying the inevitable.  It’s the end of the line for Western Corporate greed and its philosophy of endless consumption.  It is a sad state of affairs, brought on by the few while adversely affecting the majority of earth’s inhabitants.

The heady days of corporate elites being at the helm of the world’s finances and resources are all but over and those leaders will go down with their ships.

It is over! Corporate collapse of the Western way of life and financial systems is inevitable and World Governments are going to topple along with their banker friends and those financial institutions that have ruled to this point.

Ascension anyone?

Maurice Turmel PhD

We begin our story with a poem, one I wrote years ago, in what seems like another lifetime.  My Guidance tells me I walked the earth back then and saw for myself the insidious beginnings of this thing called Religion.

People were looking for ways to control the masses.  Each day some new purpose would emerge designed to enslave the existing populations and have them do the dirty work of those who saw themselves as Masters.

For the purposes of this story and the Religious Abuse Recovery Program we are launching here, we will focus our attention on the Catholic Church primarily.  But this expose can be applied to other religions as well.

  Man’s Folly – Religious Abuse

In the Name of the Father / How can it be? / You lied and cheated / Deceived me, I can see

No more holdouts / No more old scores / Time to return me / To my sweet amore

 The one true love / That resides within / Is not without worry / But certainly without sin

 The abuse of the Father / Is no folly indeed / It happened to many / Disrupted His creed

 His words were spoken / In the hearts of the All / Lost and forsaken / Left in the Hall

 There to be taken / By those who “knew better” / Thought they’d interpret / That unopened letter

 Concealed though it was / To be opened by you / Thought they would grab it / And give it a chew

 Chew, this they did / And badly as well / Hell and damnation / Had cast their spell

 Long after the heartache / The evil and rhyme / The words of the Lord / Were turned into slime

 Now these are retrievable / Through your own heart / Look in there now dear / You’ll find your part

 No longer distorted / By those in the know / Cause you open your own mail / To start your own show

 Let it be said / That God always knew better / He’d let you find / Your very own letter

 He’d let you know / When you had enough / Cause His Heart is Yours / And Yours is so tough

 Tougher than lies / Let that be for certain / Look inside your self / Just behind the curtain

 The veil they created / With their stories untrue / The nonsense they taught / And said was about you

 You know the truth / God set it there / He said: “Take a look dear / Don’t you be scared”

 “I placed those words / Inside your heart / I knew you’d find / Your very own part”

 “I’m glad you took charge / And set it all straight / No use pretending / I just couldn’t wait”

 “Glad you could find / Your way to center / Heaven is right here, dear / Time for you to enter”

 “And I love you, I do”

 Signed: The Lord within

Removing the Religious Collar:

I come to you with this news because it is time to remove that religious collar from around your necks.  We have suffered at the hands of our religious leaders.  We adopted methods of coping that affected us adversely.  These would include the great variety of addictions all designed to numb out the toxic effects of Guilt and Shame piled upon us by those who claimed to know better.  This is one aspect of the insidious nature of Religious Abuse.

 Let’s set the stage so we can all see where this enslavement of souls began.  At the beginning of the First Millennium AD, around the time Jesus Christ was born, the Roman Empire was in a stiff decline.  Their mastery and control over Europe and various regions in Africa and the Middle East were falling apart because the Roman leaders could no longer maintain the discipline necessary to keep their legions subjects in line.

As the Roman Empire continued its decline, some of its soon to be deposed leaders noticed that a rise in religious fervor was taking root, therefore, an opportunity to harness that need was now available.  They realized they could transform this seeking of spiritual succor into a different form of enslavement that only required conditioning of the mind.  By co-opting God as their ultimate Higher Power, they could deliver to the populace a series of edicts that could not be challenged, since they came directly from God.

An uneducated populace fell right into the trap and became supporters of this new religious movement.  The Roman Empire morphed into the Roman Catholic Church and carried on their usual affairs under the guise of a new business model.  Former military leaders exchanged their battle garb for priestly robes and began the transformation.  They started to build churches and went to work developing their mind conditioning practices.

They saw for themselves what power religious beliefs could hold when they witnessed the effect Jesus Christ had on the population of the time.  After they killed him, they jumped all over this need and began the business of converting the Empire into a large scale Religion.

They developed all kinds of methods for enticing people, methods that made good use of the technological advances of the day.  For a naïve population, these acts of trickery were pure magic and served to draw them tighter within the fold.  Simple mathematical formulas coupled with advances in hydraulics were converted into the miracles of crying statues, bleeding glass and speaking stones, all orchestrated behind the scenes by masters of illusion who hired themselves out to the Highest Bidders.  That’s how Catholicism began, with trickery and deceit, methods that remain in existence to this very day.

This form of trickery and deceit set the stage for what was to become a systematic program of wowing potential converts with manufactured miracles.  The biggest coup for the Catholic Church was when they successfully co-opted Jesus Christ’s name and enormous popularity.  Once he was out of the way, it was easy, because he was no longer around to challenge them.  This simply was the common business practice of stealing an idea, then getting rid of the competition that created it.

But that was not enough.  They needed a founder, someone who was loyal to Jesus Christ, and that was his right hand man, Peter.  They claimed Peter as the founder of Jesus Christ’s church, even though they had killed him as well, crucified him upside down, if you recall. So today you have St. Peter’s Square in Vatican City and St. Peter’s Basilica within that square all contained within a small piece of real estate that reports to no one but itself, exempt from taxes and exempt from scrutiny, the wealthiest religious organization on the planet.

In the meantime, Roman Empire soldiers became Christian Mercenaries and led the charge against Heathens everywhere.  A heathen was simply a person or group that did not endorse Christianity.  For this failure to comply they were killed, with Holy Swords and in God’s name. A few centuries back, during the time of the Crusades, a Christian mercenary leader reportedly asked his Pope, Pope Innocent II, how he should differentiate between believers and heathens, so as not to smite the faithful.  And the Pope replied: “Kill them all.  We’ll let God determine which are His.” There you have another piece of the foundation of the Roman Catholic Church.

Historians may dispute these claims as too simplistic and not factual enough, because I offer no accounting of dates or other specifics.  The accuracy of these claims can be determined when you Google any of the key words listed above.  For the purposes of your Religious Abuse Recovery, such details are unnecessary.  What the church did or didn’t do, and who were the main players at the times of various atrocities will have no effect on what you need to recover from Religious Abuse.  All we are showing you here are the corrupt beginnings of a Religion that claimed to have your best interests in mind, while its priests and nuns were busy berating you, sexually abusing you, shaming you and reducing you to puddles of tears, as successfully conditioned you to hate your self.  This is spiritual blasphemy of the highest order

The Roman Catholic Church has become a massive and perverse institution whose main weapons include psychological conrols, de-humanizing physical and sexual abuses and constant condemnation of your value as a person, as a true son / daughter of God.  This is how they started and where they remain to this day, keeping all of us as children dependent on them, and continuing their program of mental and emotional enslavement through psychological torture and conditioning. 

You need to see this for yourself, so you can come out of the trance they have put you in.  All of their messages are what we psychologists call “double-binds”.   For example:  “God loves you, but you’re a Sinner.”  “If you do as we say, you will go to Heaven.  If you don’t, you will go to Hell.”  There was no Hell until they invented it.  There was no Purgatory until they invented that. 

All of these machinations are fictions, all part of the Big Lie to keep you enslaved.  None of it is true.  They made it all up.  And they continue to promote these ideas to this day because now they can rely on unquestioned history and their 2,000 years in business as validation of their eternal righteousness and authority.

This is where the Roman Catholic Church started.  They discovered that Guilt and Shame, coupled with the fear of rejection by God, were stronger weapons than arrows and swords for bringing populations to their knees.  It was easy back then to dupe so many people, because there was no education system to speak of, except for the elites who were already behind this fictional creation, and are still there to this day.

Jesus Christ did not launch the Catholic Church and neither did his close friend and disciple, Peter.  They were setting the stage for a spiritual revolution however, and that is why they were killed.  They were a threat to the ruling authorities of the day.  Once these two were out of the way, the elites of the time seized the opportunity to capitalize on the authentic search for truth and wholeness, and used this natural human desire to enslave people in a whole new manner.  With the fear of God duly installed, they could do pretty much whatever they wanted.

They successfully utilized the power of belief and the natural urge to meld with one’s God as a tool for conscripting millions into their fold while installing themselves as the only legitimate intermediary between man and God. 

That’s where our experiences of religious abuse began.  These perverse psychological tactics have been in operation for 2,000 years and they will not be going away quietly.  The perversions of Christ’s original message are still going on, as are the abuses inflicted on countless children all over the world.  We have only seen the tip of the iceberg where these abuses are concerned.  The Catholic Church has successfully silenced many dissenting and complaining voices by simply paying them off under gag order conditions.

In the meantime they continue to manage their business as usual.  Who is the next potential Saint in their lineup of fake ascenders?  Let’s condemn abortion one more time.  Let’s continue to deny poor people in third world countries the use of condoms to keep family sizes manageable. Let’s release another edict against homosexuality while tour own ranks are filled with them.  Let’s publicly condemn priest pedophiles while we continue to shift them from parish to parish as complaints are laid.

Lies, hypocrisy and more lies are the true foundations of the Catholic Church.  You need to see this to begin your recovery.  You need to know that you placed your trust in the lowest of the low, that your parents were duped as were the thousands of generations before them.  You need to see how badly and perversely you’ve been lied to so that you can contemplate the idea that you are not so bad after all. When we reject our abuse experiences as determiners of who we are and put these back onto the shoulders of our abusers where they belong, we begin to see that their practices are clear testimony of their perverse nature. 

They are the abusers and we are the victims. The abuse that we suffered is about “what happened to us.”  It is not about who we are.  But it most certainly is about who and what they are.  And they are everything they ever accused us of.  They are the perverse and the psychologically sick.  Their actions, thoughts and behaviors toward innocent children are what need to be condemned.  They are the purveyors of abuse.

The Catholic Church’s entire program began with a series of lies and that remains as their foundation to this day.  These people are murderers, liars, child abusers, sexual abusers and emotional abusers. They live in a hollowed out world where the only truth that matters is what will help perpetuate their power and control for another day, week or year.

They have piles and piles of money that they keep to themselves while they shame us into giving to the poor and disenfranchised, loathsome conditions that they help perpetuate with their antiquated but controlling messages about sin, sexual activity and birth control.  In their world, it’s all about counting the cash, keeping the business humming along and silencing the victims of their various abuses through murder or payoff.  Yes, there are bodies buried around residential schools in North America, children that were killed by their priest caretakers.  Those who survived these experiences and witnessed the murders, have been bought off by those pesky gag orders, so that the Catholic Church can continue to pretend it is wholesome and clean.

This church, and many like it, is as political as any government and as corrupt as the worst you and I have ever seen.  They are befuddled by the fact that they continue to be sued and called to account for their misdeeds.  After all, shouldn’t they be above the law?  Meanwhile, children abused at their hands, grow into adults who have multiple problems with self-trust, self-worth, self-esteem, self-condemnation and even self-abuse.  These are the childhood religious abuse victims who as adults turn to alcohol and drugs to mollify their experiences of abuse at the hands of the Catholic Church.  These people are you and I, victims of abuse at the hands of tyrannical nuns and priests who clubbed us into submission by conditioning us to fear God, the same God they claim is always loving and welcoming – another double-bind.

Their Pope is a big fat joke.  They have elevated him to Rock Star status and sent him around the world to mingle with the common people.  He’s just a father figure who goes around the world making a sign of the cross over the heads of thousands who are starved for parental approval and affection.

The Catholic Church’s leaders have positioned themselves as parent authorities who, while working for God, are allegedly immune to scrutiny or prosecution.  They have successfully used the same tactic as rapists and similar abusers when confronted with charges of abuse – blame the victim and re-victimize them all over again.

The Catholic Church Authorities are the real heathens.  They are the abusers of God’s just words.  They are the liars and psychological enslavers of today.  They are as good at running their religion as other enslavers’ of whole populations – Adolph Hitler and the Nazis, Joseph Stalin, Idi Amin and most recently, Saddam Hussein. Comparisons can be made to a number of Western Leaders as well, but we will save that for another day.  For now, the Catholic Church’s leaders are well in tune with the petty despots that we’ve seen come and go down through the ages.

Petty despots and religious abusers are all cut from the same cloth.  They are elitist.  They see themselves as privileged.  And they truly believe they have the right to “Lord it” over the rest of us. We, the general population, continue to be their slaves as long as we endorse their program, or, more accurately, fail to stand up for ourselves and put these abuses and condemnations back onto them, where they belong.

This is the end of the road for the Catholic Church and all religions that practice psychological enslavement of their adherents.  Those of us who have been abused are now saying:

 Enough!  I will no longer suffer at your hands! I am done with you forever!  And I will heal myself of all your toxic effects.

 Let that be the beginning of your Religious Abuse Recovery process. Let that phrase now become your Mantra.  Say it to yourself everyday and prepare to heal from the lifetime of abuses you have suffered at their hands.  The problem was never you.  They problem has always been in the hands of your abusers.  They are the ones who are sick and misguided.  They are the ones who have perverted and corrupted Christ’s message to us.  They are the ones who pretend to be God’s emissaries when they are in fact perverts of the truth.

 In the next installment we will lay out a profile of religious abuse victims.  You will see yourself there and know you have been accurately described.  With that template in hand you will begin your own recovery process using the guidance and methods provided here.

 Yes you can recover from Religious Abuse, Religious Sexual Abuse, Religious Mental Abuse and Religious Emotional Abuse using the very same psychological tools they used to condemn you.  Properly applied, these tools will lead you out of the spiritual wilderness they cast you into, and help you find your way Home to your True Heart, your True Self, and then make good your Personal Connection with the Living God within.  Then you will know the true freedom of being “Connected to Source”, which simply means you will never need another religion again for the rest of your natural life.

 How’s that for a promise?  You, connected with You, and with the Great Creator!  No more middle man.  No more lies – just your own permanent connection to the Almighty.

What is Ascension?
Ascension is the predicted shift from 3rd dimensional density consciousness to 5th dimensional expanded consciousness where the human race will be able to reconnect directly to Source.

Ascension 2012 come to us through the Maya calendar which has predicted this acceleration of The Pulse for centuries, and set December 21, 2012 as their calendar end date, or Deadline, if you prefer.
The Earth is expected to undergo structural changes along identified fault lines, with a possible shift in axis rotation occurring as well. Such events are reported to occur every 26,000 years when the Earth is aligned with the Galactic Center of the Milky Way.

For we inhabitants of the Earth, ascension is about this shift upward in consciousness. If you have been working on your personal growth and spiritual development for some time, you are likely feeling the effects of higher energies coming into the Earth at this time. These are part of the coming shift. So are signs coming to us through Crop Circles and numerous Channeling sources.

This Ascension Training Program, rooted in psychology, mythology and spirituality, has been designed for the Western mindset. It has already been rated as “life changing” by early participants.

For additional information please visit the website at the Ascension Training Centre .
Once there, please pay attention to your Heart and Feeling Centre as these will inform you if this program is for you.

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An overview of grief and loss shows us that this is a broad category of life experience. We usually associate it with death and dying, but it can include losing your employment and broken relationships as additional categories that generate the grief experience. Grief and loss comes in a multiplicity of dimensions that affect our daily lives.

The predominant category is loss of a loved one, of course. Death is the first thing that comes to mind when grief and loss are being discussed. But this particular experience can also emerge when we breakup with a lover, lose a pet or get fired from our employment. When the grief experience strikes, recovery is what preoccupies us the most.

We now understand that losing a loved one is only one aspect of grief and loss. Relationship breakups, divorce, loss of the family pet, getting fired and losing a business are all causes that generate the grief and loss experience. Such losses are rarely associated with the main grieving category, but in fact, they do share many common denominators as the primary experience of death of a loved one.

This article aims to point out the many common denominators grief and loss reveals over all of the above related dimensions. We grief our loved ones.  We mourn the loss of the family pet. We suffer over a recent breakup. We fall into depression over the loss of our job or business.

What is our point here with this foray into the multiple dimensions of grief and loss? We are dealing with an emotional crisis and a feeling based wound. We experience sadness, depression and hurt. Feeling lost and afraid is common.  Anger usually arrives first, till we discover what’s underneath, and pain is what we wish to avoid, initially. All such reactions are quite typical with the experience of grief and loss.

It becomes obvious that grief and loss affects many aspects of our life experience. Acknowledging this and accepting responsibility for our recovery from such stress reveals itself as necessary. We can regain our energy and drive by working through the effects of grief and loss. Since the experience is more common than previously thought, any effort we make to deal with grief and loss will have benefits across the breadth of our lives.

Gaining and losing are part of the cycle of life. A snake sheds its old skin so that new growth underneath can emerge.  We typically see most losses as devastating when, in fact, they may be a prelude to something new and exciting. Learning to let go is essential to the process of recovery from any loss.

Our biggest loss is always the death of a loved one. On a well known stress scale, this type of loss is just ahead of divorce and moving, two more examples of grief and loss. Learning to manage our daily losses, big and small, can well equip us for dealing with the big one when it inevitably strikes. A good grief resource becomes our most valuable guide during such circumstances and will lead us toward a healthy recovery.

Dealing with grief and loss requires that we face our emotions and work through them. Acquiring a good resource, turning toward family and friends and sharing our sorrow can lead to new and deeper relationships. There are secret benefits to all of life’s trials, even though it make take years to see them. The main lesson from grief and loss is that something awaits us on the other side of the experience.

But it is mainly after your relationship ends that you should learn to write poems for a broken heart, since it is a healthy way of dealing with your emotions. Unless you want to major in poetry, you can write broken heart poems in any way you want. They do not even have to make any sense.

In writing a broken heart poem it is not necessary for you to know anything about rhyme, free verse, meter or any other jargon. You do not even have read a poem in your life to be able to write your own. What is important is that you be honest, so that it makes you feel better and helps you get over the painful breakup.

Before you start to write, you need to face your emotions as you learn how to move on from a broken heart. While you may feel better from denying you feel heart-broken, you will never be able to move on and open yourself up to anyone else if you do not deal with your emotions, and learn from the situation. And a great way to face the pain is to write some broken heart poems, where you can express your feelings on paper.

Do not try be the next best poet. You are not even writing the broken heart poem for anyone else to read. Just write what you feel, nothing more. The point is to write the poem how you would say it, and then go back and organize it better.

A good method in writing poems for a broken heart, is not stop writing until every emotion has been expressed. Do not worry about paragraphs or sentences. They can be fixed later. But for now, concentrate on getting your feelings out.

After finishing your first poem, you may feel you have more to say, and decide to write some more broken heart poems. That’s wonderful – it means you are getting it all out. Just write everything down – the more the merrier – and you will feel a great sense of relief. Facing that breakup pain and getting it down on paper may be very emotional for you. But do not let that stop you. Keep going until every feeling, thought and emotion is on paper, and you feel you can move on.

If you think that sharing your broken heart poem will help you move on, then show it to someone who you trust, such as a close friend or family member. You could even put your poem on-line for the world to see. There are hundreds of websites out there for you to express yourself. You can copy your broken heart poems to the Internet or even start your own blog, and feel a sense of satisfaction that you were able to let go of the past and share your experiences with others.

With these latter couples, we would discuss what was happening and how each of them was dealing with their feelings. The diagnosed partner seemed to have the easier time, having accepted their illness and the eventual fatal consequences. I saw this type of reaction in my own family with a terminally ill brother-in-law and my sister. It was always the surviving partner who had the most difficulty with the situation because they would have to go on alone.

The goal of counseling is always to listen and reflect back to the client what they are expressing at a feeling level. With experience, identifying the feelings behind the words became second nature to me and my reflections were mostly accurate. I would take what the client said and translate it into something like: “So what you’re saying is that you feel scared, disorganized, confused, angry and perhaps sad all at the same time?” Then I would ask them to check “inside” to see if that was accurate. It usually was and thus began the exploration of their feelings.

Then I would instruct them to pay attention to that particular feeling and tell me more about it.  They would then describe their feelings in detail along with whatever physical reactions might be attached to it. Tears would begin to flow as they related the physical and emotional reactions they were experiencing. This was the essence of my counselling approach for persons in grief, no matter what the precipitating circumstances. 

It was not unusual for clients to ask about Stages of Grief and/or some theory they had heard about in their research on the matter. As interesting as this might be, I would point out that anything that distracted them from their feelings was a waste of their recovery efforts. In contrast, anything that helped them focus on feelings would always be the most beneficial. After a few challenging sessions, where painful feelings were addressed and released, the client would realize that this was the path to recovery.  Not only that, but learning to identify, describe and release feelings as a general practice, would have benefits far beyond their successful grief recovery.

Externals, such as stages, theories, charts and graphs can help illustrate important points about a particular experience or grief event. These make for good news reporting and the plethora of self-help books available today. Grief recovery resources and counseling focus on Internals such as emotions, feelings and associated physical reactions. They focus on our Heart and Feeling center because that is where we experience the quality of our life and the pain of a major loss. Once an individual becomes engaged in the process of “looking in” they have a new tool with which to manage their life. Journaling, writing letters to the deceased, listening to soothing music and reading grief related poetry will put you in touch with Your Heart, and that’s where healing takes place.

A well crafted grief recovery resource is second only to a good therapist as a guide to our grief recovery. For intense reactions you may need to start with a therapist. That aside, your grief recovery resource can provide all the guidance you need to navigate this experience. When we lose a loved one we experience powerful emotions and feelings that we are usually unaccustomed to. A good grief resource capitalizes on this and takes you further into the experience of loss.  Yes it hurts, just like squeezing the poison out of an infected wound. But who would argue the end result. With permission to feel and the guidance of a good grief resource we can make our way through this experience. Our heart and feeling center know what to do once we engage this process.

Applying externals such as charts, graphs and catch phrases like “time heals all” to an internal experience such as bereavement and grief is a waste of time. Being well informed can be useful, but it will not mend your broken heart. Externals can actually act as a distraction to the necessary grief recovery counseling process. A well written grief recovery resource can act as a personal counselor in the case of losing a loved one and help you focus on that all important feeling dimension. Don’t waste your time with externals. Get to the Heart of the matter.

This has been a brief overview of what grief recovery counseling, via a professional therapist or well-crafted grief resource, can provide. We reviewed why externals can detract from the process and why a program that focuses on your emotions and feelings is the key to a successful grief recovery. By applying these tools you will come to a point where thinking about your loss seldom brings you to tears. As the grief wound heals, what you are left with is the love in your heart.  As Martha Stewart would say: “And that’s a good thing.”

When we enter bereavement we are aware of its beginning, but we cannot anticipate how long it will take to reach the end. At this point the consolidation of appropriate helping resources will dictate how long bereavement recovery can take. Your feelings, such as sadness, anxiety or depression, need to be accepted and worked through or else recovery efforts can be adversely affected.

A bereavement recovery program that focuses on feelings and emotions will net the best results in the shortest amount of time. Step by step instructions mixed with poetic references will put you in touch with feelings that can be documented and worked through. Such a comprehensive approach shows positive results within a few weeks. Today there is no need to suffer bereavement or grief for years on end.

Upon completion of their assessment, bereaved clients were given tasks to deal with between sessions. I wanted to emphasize the importance of work done outside the consulting room so that responsibility for their successful recovery relied heavily on their efforts. Having completed assigned homework, clients reported their results at the next session. Owning their feelings and emotional reactions proceeded readily with a noticeable diminishment in their suffering after each step.

These consulting room experiences set the stage for my bereavement recovery program. With literally hundreds of grief and bereavement cases behind me specific strategies became evident as necessary to the recovery process. Weaving these important lessons into mythical stories, poetry and music helped strengthen their impact and readily supported the more literal instructions that were also provided.

Audio narration helps to drive important points home while putting feeling into to the words on the page.  All good books that help individuals navigate a difficult life experience are born this way.  The experience of others, coupled with the writers training, intuition and poetic flair can give birth to a program that will serve future grief sufferers.

Today we know more about grief recovery and bereavement than at any other time in our human evolution. Generations ago mythology served the purpose of guiding individuals through important life lessons by couching them into stories that were passed along verbatim.  Every culture had them and every period of our human history reveals their presence. Todays psychology was yesterdays mythology and actually rests on that foundation. 

Modern advances in our understanding of grief and bereavement recovery show clearly that a feeling based approach is the most effective. Dealing with feelings and emotions takes sufferers directly to their pain and that’s where healing takes place. This particluar focus also delivers the quickest and most permanent results. As already mentioned, this heart-based approach reveals that bereavement can be turned around within a few short weeks.

When feeling low we often turn to poetry and music to help us identify emerging feelings. A good grief recovery program will combine these elements with a well laid out plan of action. Journaling about feelings makes them real and helps move them through you while giving you a method you can use for any emotional crisis. Bereavement is a feeling based experience that benefits the most from this approach.

Your broken heart will benefit greatly from your growing acquaintanship with your feelings and emerging self-awareness. Dealing with emotions and feelings is not just for bereavement; it holds much broader consequences for your life as a whole. But in this instance, it is the treatment of choice for bereavement and grief recovery. Many grieving individuals have recovered using this approach and so will you!

Maurice Turmel PhD has been helping bereaved individuals for over 25 years. Mixing classic instructions with poetry, storytelling and reflections has resulted in a revolutionary approach to bereavement recovery that generates results quickly.

The first experiences we encounter upon hearing about the death of a loved one are shock and confusion. Our body and mind typically react this way to the tragedy of losing a loved to sudden death.  Accepting the reality of this tragic news we typically find difficult to manage, especially in sudden or tragic circumstances such as accident or illness.

We experience a sense of disorganization and unreality until the full realization of our loss sinks in.  We march along in a dreamlike state through the funeral arrangements, the influx of family and friends, and the inevitable post burial let down. Or emotions are kept in check until we complete these practical necessities.

Our grief recovery begins after the family has left and in conjunction with our acceptance of the loss. Anxiety, depression and similar raw emotions that we previously contained are now allowed to surface. We find ourselves alone with our thoughts, feelings and reactions, and the necessity for grief recovery looms large on the horizon.

Thoughts and feelings associated with the loss now make their way into our awareness and begin pressing for attention. If we have some experience dealing with our feelings, then the raw emotions we are exposed to may be somewhat familiar. If this is our first major loss then our grief recovery will be complicated by the confusion and disorganization that struck us at first and is now laden with powerful emotional reactions.

Medical help may be a good option for our grief recovery in the short term. The effects of sleep deprivation, overwhelming anxiety and deep depression can be mitigated by our physician’s  prescription of appropriate medications. We realize that our mind, body and emotions have received a severe shock and may require a medical  intervention to help settle us down.

For the long term, options for our grief recovery may include joing a support group, seeing a therapist and/or acquiring helpful books and audio resources.  If you feel strong enough and experienced with your emotions then a good book resource may be all that is required to help guide you along.

Books and audio resources typically include a description of the grief recovery process and a categorization of stages you may encounter. The better resources provide an easy to follow program for dealing with your emotions which exhibit the strongest of reactions in relation to a loved one’s death. A grief recovery program that focuses on your emotions and feelings will deliver the greatest benefit in the shortest amount of time.

Grieving individuals often appreciate poetry and music as an adjunct to their more formal grieving process and healing strategies.  A good grief recovery resource will address all dimensions that affect your grieving experience while helping you focus on feelings and emotions. With the right book and audio resources, coupled with your determination to heal, your grief recovery can proceed in short order. And by this we mean weeks, or a few short months – never in years.

Over my 25 years of professional practice I learned that grieving individuals had the hardest time dealing with their feelings of loss and the ensuing emotions that would come rushing to the fore.  It’s true that grief, loss and bereavement are difficult experiences to transcend.  But it is not true that this has to be an overwhelming and debilitating experience.  It only seems so because so few of us are well versed in dealing with these effects.

In my first year of practice I interned at a Cancer Hospital where grief, loss and bereavement were on the menu every day.  Families came with their sick loved ones to spend their last few days together in a comfortable and supportive environment. Facing the imminence of death was always easier for the person dying.  Family members died a little themselves as they watched their loved one fade away.

In the end, the grieving family had the most difficulty with the finality of their loved one’s passing. Emotions would run high at these times and the intensity of feelings was palpable.  I quickly learned that this is where we had to focus to help bereaved individuals recover.  Their feelings and emotions came to the fore as the most important aspect of the grief and bereavement recovery process.

When working with grieving individuals and families, I took the position that we had to focus on what they were feeling, which more often than not, was exactly what they wanted to avoid.  In the end they would see what I was aiming at and why it was essential to follow that path. If they truly wanted to heal, then their feelings and emotions had to be dealt with head on.

After only a few sessions of dealing with feelings and emotions and letting themselves cry when they needed to, the necessary pattern was set. Grieving individuals would surrender to their feelings, journal about them and report back to me.  Eventually acknowledging and claiming their feelings served to validate their sense of self as well as their bereavement experience. In very short order, they could do this on their own.

This pattern of helping individuals focus on and accept their feelings became the foundation of my approach to counselling and therapy, not just for grief and bereavement, but for a whole host of other issues as well.  Whatever the circumstances that brought a grieving individual to my office, this approach always yielded the greatest results.

Not only did these individuals learn to grieve properly, but they also learned to use these tools for their own self-development. Turns out that learning to deal with our feelings and emotions has a benefit far beyond what grief, loss and bereavement would require.  Quite a bonus, I thought.

From this experience I learned that the key to our personal growth lies in identifying and expressing whatever feelings are arising within us at any given time, especially when we’re troubled.  Grief, loss and bereavement always elicit powerful emotional responses which need to be heard, validated and expressed safely.  So many therapeutic approaches and standard religious practices tend to vilify emerging feelings of anger, frustration, depression, hurt and despair, driving individuals to repressing their emotions even further.

Even though it’s useful to know, you can’t do bereavement by just identifying and listing the stages. You can’t do bereavement by reciting platitudes such as “This is God’s will” or “Grieving takes time” or “Surrender to Christ” or anything like this.  You also can’t do bereavement by trying to replace your so-called negative thoughts, such as the range of feelings listed above, with positive thoughts as some New Age practitioners would advise. No such luck on either count!

Platitudes and thought replacement are always delivered by people who don’t know how to deal with their own feelings and are themselves seriously repressed.  It’s easy to spot them; they are visibly uncomfortable when anyone becomes intensely emotional.

Our Bereavement Audio Ebook is designed to put you in touch with your feelings of grief and loss, to help you get used to visiting this part of your inner world so you come to know it as well as other experiences in your life.  This is where the greatest progress can be made.  As you explore, identify and register your feelings to yourself through your journal, you will start to see a picture develop.  You’re creating a roadmap to your feeling center and this will serve you for the rest of your life.

Yes, this is hard and painful work, no different than having a tooth pulled or an infected wound cleaned out and stitched up.  We put up with such pain because we know there will be benefits. Grieving your loved one through feeling your feelings is no different. It hurts! It is painful! And it will make you cry!  So what?  Emotional wounds heal just as well as physical wounds when they are properly treated and this Is “The Treatment of Choice” if you truly want to feel better.  That’s all we’re talking about here, the proper way to treat the emotional wound of grief and bereavement.

This approach is not new.  It’s been charted in our cultural and historical mythology for thousands of years.  We just lost sight of it when we became enamoured with our ability to control nature through our intellect. There is no intellectual path through grief and bereavement; it is, and will always be, an emotional journey, pure and simple. What I’m doing here is resurrecting this knowledge and applying it alongside of everything we know about psychology and spirituality today.  Grief and bereavement can be healed as easily as any physical wound, and this feeling approach is the right way to do it.

This is what our Bereavement Audio Ebook can do for you; guide you through the process of feeling your feelings, naming them for clarification and journaling about them to vent them out.  Sharing your feelings verbally with trusted others is equally beneficial and certainly recommended. How to Cope with Grief and Loss reinforces this as well. Now, what would you like to do for yourself?